Tag: BDSM

Time to Explore FemDomme with Ambre Jade

by Ambre Jadein Femdom

June24

The time has come for Me to create a site and blog entirely devoted to FemDomme and My more harsh side. While being a HypnoGoddess is a wonderful and tremendously satisfying, I can only devote so much time to creating personalised session over the phone. This limits the amount of time I can spend with each slave. By branching out and creating Niteflirt listings as well as other ways for you to prove your devotion to Me, I will be available for a variety of other types of sessions.

This is all about Me, My wants, My needs and you trying as hard as you can to satisfy them. I have rather eclectic tastes when it comes to My slaves and what I enjoy doing with them. I want this to be mutually satisfying but with My Own satisfaction being at the forefront. I have no intention to listen to someone try and top from the bottom or orchestrate some intricate fantasy of theirs. you are welcome to share your fantasy with Me but should it not be something I enjoy, I will not partake.

Being My slaves involves many things that I plan on outlining here. For starters, protocols. I adore protocols and as I add them, you are expected to follow them, to the letter, without question. I will briefly outline a few and others will pop up and you will be informed as I see fit.

When you approach Me, you will refer to Me as Ambre Jade until such time as we establish a relationship. For example, once we have done a session or have communicate for more than a single email or message. At which point you will refer to Me as “Maîtresses.” Goddess is also an acceptable title as is Master or Mistress but I prefer Maîtresse.

you will upon first talking with Me be frank and clear about your limitations, be they physical or psychological. If you have a blown out knee and I ask you to knee for forty five minutes you will not be happy and I will be unhappy because that action will limit our dealings in the future. So Be Clear, when asked.

you will speak only when spoken to.

Financial sacrifices and tributes are required! I love what I do but no sacrifice is the same without the exchange of money. This is both My work and My pleasure. I deserve to be financially compensated.

I plan on explore that delicious edge of pain and pleasure with many and you will be lucky if I accept you.

Maîtresse Ambre Jade

Viewing Your Domme as a Leader

by Ambre Jadein Domme Thought8 Comments on Viewing Your Domme as a Leader

Domme as a Leader

While writing down the qualities I want to have as a Domme, I noticed that many of them emulated those of a great leader. A leader, to me, is not necessarily someone in a position of power but rather someone who inspires the devotion of those around them. We do not follow great leaders because we have no choice. We follow them because they make us better. They make us want to be better. They inspire us.

Should we see Dommes as leaders? Not every Domme is a leader and not every leader is dominant but would it not be advantageous as a submissive to be inspired by your Domme? This is something I aspire to. I want to inspire greatness from my submissives. What other characteristics would be great for a Domme to have?

Knowledge of Limitations

I am not just referring to the physical limits of an individual but in a broader sense. I need to be fully aware of my own limits. The knowledge of what I can and can not do is invaluable. Knowledge is also power. The power to know when the perceived limits can be and should be pushed.

Control

Not only the ability to control a submissive but having self control is EXTREMELY important. When someone gives you power over their body, you need to be in complete control. You must have control over your emotions. Never lay a hand in anger. Be aware of what you as an individual are feeling and check it in at the door.

Confidence

It goes without saying that a Domme should be confident. Be confident in your abilities and in the abilities of your sub. This ties in with your knowledge of limitations, if you are not sure, not confident, do not do it. Demand (control) that your sub and you interact in a different manner.

Honesty

This is one of the characteristics I find the hardest. As a professional Domme it is difficult to be honest all of the time. There is still a business component to the relationship which can be difficult. I try to make it a point, to always be honest. Do not mistake honesty for full disclosure. No one really needs to know everything about you, unless you are in a defined partnership and even then it depends on the relationship.

Good Communicator

This is essential! Why would anyone follow someone who can not string two words together? Clear, concise commands are the most effective. Another component of communication is the ability to listen. Be willing to hear out the thoughts of your submissive. Yes, they are, in this context, inferior but that does not mean they are free of thought and feeling. Learn to read body language and listen for words that may not mean what you think they mean.

Respect

As a Domme, you want those around you to respect you. This is not something that can be commanded or forced. But when you are comparing yourself to a leader, respect means something else. It means you respect those around you. I understand that not everyone will agree with me here, but I feel that a Domme should respect her subjects. They should be respected! They are giving you power over them, be it their minds or their bodies, for 5 minutes or 5 years, they are giving the power to you. You should respect their decision. They decided you were the most suitable Domme, they respect you that much.

Obviously there are other qualities of a leader, that a Domme should try and emulate. They should be devoted to you. You should lead them.

What qualities do you find most appealing? What does she/he do that you feel makes them the best leader for you?

Mental Bondage

by Ambre Jadein Hypnosis1 Comment on Mental Bondage

Mental Bondage

What is hypnosis if not an expression of mental bondage? Mental bondage is the restriction of movement without the use of rope, harnesses, cages, etc. Hypnosis is the perfect medium. Not only does it restrict movement, it also controls the environment surrounding the subject while in a trance. It creates a stream of thought that is guided by the Hypnotist, an ecology formed with one goal in mind. Submission. With your mind busy with commands from the Hypnotist, submission can even be considered a side effect. Mental bondage is created by the Hypnotist and the subject has no choice but to accept, submit and witness the experience.

Not every hypnosis session involves a passive role for the subject but it does quiet the rest of the mind. Unwelcome thoughts, either negative ones or thoughts that have no relevance to the goal of the session are quieted. The stream of consciousness is altered. The subject takes on a state wherein they have no control and consequently must submit to the will of the Hypnotist. Much like the will of the Dominant when movement is restricted through the use of rope or other forms of physical bondage.

Mental bondage can also be established through a series of commands. I normally do not recommend verbal commands to establish a bondage scene when the submissive is new or poorly trained. But through conditioning, either physical or psychological (hypnosis) verbal commands can be just as effective if not more so than bodily restraint.

When bound through physical means the submissive’s mind is still free to wonder, to explore their own thoughts. Submission is not as complete as it could be. That does not take away from the intensity of the experience, nor should physical bondage be seen as inferior. It is just incomplete when compared to the power of mental bondage. A slave that will kneel for hours when asked is far more impressive than a slave that will kneel for hours when bound.

Do not mistake My thoughts. I love bondage mental or physical. Submission is submission and power is power. And there is something spectacular about physically restraining someone, especially when they tend to misbehave.

À bientôt,

Ambre Jade