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Posture in Femdom

May 11, 2016 by Ambre Jadein Femdom, Sessions6 Comments

Something I can never stress enough is posture in Femdom sessions. It may seem silly. Something that really does not seem important at first glace. Posture in Femdom? What does that mean? A slave, while inferior should always strive to achieve the best possible posture in any position his Mistress puts him in. Slouching, humped back, rolled shoulders, these are completely unacceptable for any slave of Mine. Inferiority does not equate small or meek. Okay, in some ways it does. But this should not be reflected in how you hold yourself. Especially in how you hold yourself around Me.

Whether our sessions are in person, over the phone, via Skype, texting, poor posture in Femdom is inexcusable. I understand that your knees hurt, your back aches, your arms are tired, insert other excuse but there is no reason to present yourself poorly in My presence. Kneeling is a crucial component to My sessions. I like My slaves and subs kneeling for Me, either for short bursts of time or extended throughout the entire session.

Those aches and pains you feel, the tired muscles and sore joints are a significant part of your training. Posture in Femdom is a sacrifice. you are sacrificing your comfort to show Me that you are proud to serve. That I am making an effort to control you and therefor you are willing to endure any minor pains that may come up during the session.

This does not only apply to masochists. The pain is part of your training. It is symbolic of your willingness to submit yourself to Me and My will. your back is straight, your chest out, shoulders squared but relaxed. The amount of time you spend in this position will increase as time goes by and you will notice a difference in how long you can hold positions. In turn this embrace of proper posture will be reflected in your daily life, even while not worshiping Me. It will be a positive change in your life.

Practice kneeling for Me, with proper posture and tell Me how it feels.

À bientôt,

Mistress Ambre Jade

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An Ultimate Experience in Findom

April 28, 2016 by Ambre Jadein Femdom, Findom1 Comment

Some will tell you the ultimate experience in findom has a dollar value attached to it, well it always does. But it is less about the amount when I look at it, it is more about the pleasure you can derive from giving something that no one else can offer your Maîtresse. For some, it is spending an amount of money on Her happiness, so high that no other could possibly compete with it. For others, it is offering something that makes your Mistress’ life better. For My puppy, his ultimate experience in findom came from an unlikely source. he paid for My black belt exam. Now, I know, you might be reading this and thinking so what? It is not some large monetary value, it does not affect Mistress’ happiness as it would have happened anyway, so why is this a big deal?

It is a big deal because no one else can claimed they bought this for Me. No other individual can make an offer that compares (until My Nidan exam 😉 ). his sacrifice to Me assured him a place in My memories and My memory in his bank account.

The ultimate experience in findom will vary from person to person. What makes one slave eager to give and enjoy the pleasure in giving is not necessarily the same trigger another slave will feel. Many financial domination enthusiasts will give purely knowing that they are so inferior by comparison that their only use is monetary and making sure their Goddess feels a certain amount of pleasure.

What would your ultimate experience in findom look like? Would you feel more pleasure in sending a larger amount or in the knowledge that you have purchased something no one else can?

Now, I love tributes, don’t get Me wrong, money brings Me quite a bit of satisfaction but there is something about a slave paying for something specific that they know will help My lifestyle that is incredibly satisfying. Not only does it mean they are putting My lifestyle ahead of theirs but they are also familiar with Me as an individual as well as a Goddess! There is something terribly special about that.

À bientôt,

Mistress Ambre Jade

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Meaningful Mesmerizing Memories

January 25, 2016 by Ambre Jadein Femdom, Hypnosis2 Comments

It’s not enough to just experience erotic hypnosis, I want to create meaningful mesmerizing memories. The type of moments that you reflect back on and your body and mind respond immediately to the memory. The type of moments you get lost in for days, weeks, even years to come. Upon returning back from a rather lengthy hiatus, I have noticed that so many of you have memories, thoughts, impressions, that have lasted for so long! This is what hypnosis is about. It’s about submission, of course. Control, for sure. Getting into your head and making it My playground, absolutely.

The Impact of Meaningful Mesmerizing Memories

They can and do act as triggers without being specifically geared to that effect. A powerful memory can be just as effective, if not more effective after time, as a trigger. Erotic triggers serve to bring you to a space similar to that you experienced within a session. They can also be used to affect future behaviours in certain situations. While a meaningful mesmerizing memory does not necessarily influence behaviour as successfully as a trigger, it can however impact your behaviour to a deeper degree than you may have originally thought.
A rush of hormones similar to the experience itself. Every experience, good or bad, brings about a flood of hormones. Our (healthy) endocrine system responds automatically and the hormones released will depend on what the body needs when facing that moment. When dealing with memories, our endocrine system, depending on the intensity of the experience, can respond. Not as profoundly as it did when you first experienced it but the hormonal response has the potential to stay with you. Think of the release of oxytocin when thinking back on a really epic joining or sexual other sexual experience.
A whirlwind of emotions. This can be either a positive or a negative, depending on circumstances.

Not only can memories, actual memories impact you in these ways but using erotic hypnosis, a HypnoDomme can create meaningful mesmerizing memories. Memory implantation. The events feel and seems so real that they impact you in the same fashion as mesmerizing memories. This can greatly impact the possibilities for mind control. So many possibilities.

Can you tell the difference between what is real and what has been planted?

À bientôt,

Goddess Ambre Jade

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30 Day Chastity Challenge Finally Together

January 15, 2016 by Ambre Jadein Femdom, Sessions1 Comment

I hinted at this with My last post. More fun and excitement on the chastity front from Me 🙂 I have created what I feel is something rather unique. A 30 Day Challenge that brings together chastity and teasing. I wanted to create something unique, something a bit more fun that your standard just don’t cum for 30 Days challenge! Some that would tease you and tantalize and bring you to the edge just about every day of this challenge. I wanted to exercise My creativity while giving you the opportunity to feel My distinct influence running over you.
Now, I get that some of you will see 30 Days as a long challenge. Something daunting and potentially unattainable. Here’s the thing, you can do it. you can successful avoid orgasm for 30 days for Me. It is a sacrifice you are making for Me. It might be the hardest sacrifice you have faced in a long time, but it will be both pleasurable and memorable. It will test you, it will fuck with you. It will play with your senses… I am so excited for this, you have no idea!

I created an audio introduction to My 30 Day Chastity Challenge for you. This will give you an idea of the tone and My style of teasing for the next 30 Days!

How Does the 30 Day Chastity Challenge Work?

Right now, I am mainly pushing the challenge through My Femdom Niteflirt. It is available through paid mail, if you are not familiar with the system, you can find all kinds of information on their site. Each mail will contain the instructions (audio and brief outline through type) for that day as well as a link, button, for the following day as well as a cum tax should you fuck up, which you won’t.

you can also email Me for other ways you can participate outside of Niteflirt. you will receive an email the night before, so that you wake to your instructions in your inbox! Lucky you!

Enjoy this challenge, it is the first of many to come!

À bientôt,

Maîtresse Ambre Jade

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Keep a Chastity Diary

January 6, 2016 by Ambre Jadein Femdom1 Comment

I am a huge fan of diary keeping, writing a journal, blogs, that sort of thing. It’s important to be able to look back on your experiences and see what you can learn. Self-reflection is crucial. I want you to keep a chastity diary. This will be part of another project, I will get to that after.

Within your chastity diary, I want you to recount every stroke, every touch, every emotion you are feeling while being chaste. This will be a wonderful way for you to see how you respond to chastity, and guided masturbation (part of the project) without having an orgasm.

The 30 Days of Chastity will be available soon through Niteflirt and My Store. I am putting the finishing touches on it. It will include a daily audio, JOI and some light teasing. It will include instructions, some days more specific than others. Look for news on it’s release on My twitter. Keeping a chastity journal will be part of the challenge, so practice in the mean time.

Things to write in your Chastity Diary:

Start with how many days you have been in chastity, you may have been chaste prior to starting your chastity journal, that doesn’t mean you get to cum today and start tomorrow.
Write about how you feel that day, are you emotional? Zen? Feeling horny? Angry?
Write about how you respond to various stimuli. Does the water running over your body feel more erotic during your shower than normal?
How many times you stroked, how you stroked, etc. if you are following My chastity challenge you will have specific instructions, otherwise write about every stroke, every touch
How many hours you spent free vs locked. Some days you need to spend more time locked up so that things don’t become tempting. Or you just needed to air yourself out and spent a good part of the day free. How did you feel locked vs free?
How did you sleep the night before? What did you dream about?
Write about any fantasies that may have made an appearance, however brief. Write them down, so you can explore them more fully in the future.

These are just the basics, as you continue your journal you will add more information that may seem relevant. These journals should be shared with your Maîtresse of course. Especially the fantasies that come up and your emotional state. If you are feeling volatile, you Mistress will help you through it, or make it worse 😉

À bientôt,

Maîtresse Ambre Jade

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Once you are Mine

December 17, 2015 by Ambre Jadein Femdom2 Comments

Relationships evolve. There are moments when you outgrow a relationship. Either the Domme or the sub moves on. It happens, just like any other relationship. Like any other relationship, you will have moments when you look back and have some sort of emotional response. As you can well imagine, this is true of a D-s relationship as well, including those that are not necessarily sexual in nature. The D-s relationship is so intimate even without sex. There is a connection that is truly unique when you are owned.

When a Domme truly owns you, when you are Mine, there is no escape. We can go years without interacting and a single word can pass between My lips and you will remember how good it feels to be owned by Me. you mind will flood with memories and the doctrine comes back. The connection is strong and unbreakable. Regardless of other happenings within your existence, you remember being truly owned. you remember that you are truly Mine. Being Mine is a connection that never fades. Time can pass, events can happen but nothing will break the connection of being truly owned by Me. Of being Mine.

It is both a blessing and a curse, as the Domme. While I love total control and complete ownership of you, I try to see Myself as a benevolent force within your being and want you to have certain things. I want you to get what you deserve even if that means I must take a secondary role. I can’t see all My slaves in person and I do not want to not give each individual their time with their Owner. As such, there are times that I, as their Owner, must take a minimal role to ensure that their place is properly represented. Some people need physical interactions, something I am rarely in a position to offer. When such circumstances arise, I try to help guide My slave to finding the right person to do sessions with.

Ultimately though, all slaves come back. Their place is kneeling before Me and they know it. Who could blame them for craving spending more time with Me?!

Know your place but know that sometimes you can have the best of all that is offered once you are Mine!

À bientôt,

Maîtresse Ambre Jade

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Swingers and Fetishists

December 10, 2015 by Ambre Jadein Domme Thought, Femdom, Fetish

For the purposes of this article, I am using Fetishist and practitioners of BDSM interchangeably. This is not always the case but in this instance it applies to the BDSM community and fetishist feels like a better word than Domme, sub, Dom, slave, puppy, Owner, Mistress, ... the list goes on. Thus fetishist as the term used here.

It’s interesting. There seems to have always been a certain animosity between swingers and fetishists. Even with a rather significant overlap in behaviours. I was at the swingers’ baths the other night and as usually was having a wonderful time. While I do not see myself as a swinger, it is not really something I participate in, I always enjoy being there. I blame the water 😉 A girlfriend and I were talking about the quasi feud that there seems to be between the two cultures. My friend has been into BDSM longer than I have, and though not currently part of the scene, she was for a long time.

What is it about these two cultures that causes the friction? Swingers and fetishists have a lot in common. Both are seen as deviant behaviour, counter culture. They have their own clubs and gatherings. They have their own rules and behavioural expectations. What is it that keeps them apart?

To figure this out, I went back in time to my first encounter with the notions of swingers and fetishists. The BDSM community is BIG on consent, and if they are not, stay away, but a discussion for another time. Consent is a massive part of the BDSM lifestyle. Why? Because you are electing to either cause or receive pain. This is one of the few places where consent is utilized properly. Where as swingers, without the aspect of pain see consent as a given. Not necessarily a given but they tend to see consent in a way that is comparable to the way the rest of society sees it. It is assumed consent is there.

While I do not feel that my experiences within the swinger baths showed a violation of consent, or that anyone was indulging in something that went beyond what was consensual, there were also no discussions about it. No active informed consent, no consent discussions, no debating or negotiating. The consent was assumed.

Maybe this is key to why the two communities seem at odds. I have to admit, coming from the background I do, my ideals, my views, the lack of these consent discussions were a little shocking. More so when you take into account the consuming of alcohol. What can I say, different strokes. The swinger culture has a sense of freedom that I can’t help but covet. Is it for me? Absolutely not. Could it be in the future? Who knows, sexuality is fluid. The BDSM community has structure, roles, rules and regulations, consent. For now, my sexuality swings (pun totally intended) more toward BDSM and likely always will.

À bientôt,

Ambre Jade

Femdom Life Coaching: A holistic approach to Female Domination

December 3, 2015 by Ambre Jadein Femdom, Life Coaching, Sessions1 Comment

My approach to Female Domination has always been very holistic. I strive to impact not just your sexuality but other aspects of your existence as well. Femdom Life Coaching is the best term to describe My intentions. The creation of a plan for slaves and submissives whether they are proponents of My doctrine or not. The idea is that your devotion to Female Domination should have an influence in your every day life. We are not always prepared to serve in a holistic fashion. There is a focus on sex, and orgasms, and kink distractions. But Femdom is about more than that for many. It should be a way of life, a way of being. Life coaching is about being in the present, about influencing your present to attain a specific goal. Who better to help you on that journey than a Domme? Femdom Life Coaching creates an environment where both your sexual self and your being can grow.

Femdom Life Coaching can include:

Exploration of new fetishes
Finding ways to express your devotion without compromising current relationships
Creating a daily routine that works and you can stick to
Learning to approach Dommes
Learning to work with the right Domme
Finding your hang ups with complete devotion
Coming to terms with your reality
Fitness and healthy habits
Financial budgeting and Domination
Homework
Self reflection
the list goes on…

The possibilities are truly endless. To celebrate My newest approach to Femdom and embracing Femdom Life Coaching, I will be creating a twelve week program for those wanting to New Year on the right foot.

Femdom Life Coaching sessions are different from Femdom sessions in that they are not focused on you pleasing Me. This is about you learning to find the right ways to please a Domme that work well for both parties. These sessions can be done via phone, text, or cam.

My goal is to be a benevolent force within your existence. Someone who can both dominate and help simultaneously to create an atmosphere in which you can flourish as a submissive, slave or other.

À bientôt,

Maîtresse Ambre Jade

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Daily Worship, add it to your life

September 16, 2015 by Ambre Jadein Femdom1 Comment

Daily worship should be an important part of your existence as a submissive. This does not mean daily sessions, or even daily communication. It means finding some moments within your day devoted entirely to your Mistress. There are many ways to perform your daily worship. The trick is to find the one that works best for you and Mistress.

Daily worship not only promotes the feelings of weakness you feel when near your Maîtresse but it also increases sensations of devotion, need and ache for Her. It makes every session with Her that much deeper as you have been meditating, reflecting, pondering your Mistress. Each moment you spend worshiping, roots your passion for Her deeper into your being.

Ways to Perform Daily Worship

Each Mistress has Their preferred method of daily worship. For some, it is daily sessions or conversations. For others, it could be paying a set tribute on a daily basis. Here are a few that I enjoy:

Daily Check Ins, I require many of My slaves to check in with Me daily. The act of writing the email can become a form of meditation. your attention focused completely on Me as you compose your message to Me.
Daily Sessions, obviously daily sessions are a great way to connect.
Nightly Prayers. While getting ready to fall asleep, open yourself up to the ritual of speaking with your Goddess through your thoughts.
Cumming for your Mistress only. Obviously this does not apply to those in chastity. If every time you touch yourself and even orgasm, your Maîtresse is on your mind.
Meditation. Find some quiet time and meditate on how much you appreciate and love your Mistress.
Make Daily Choices that reflect your Mistress’ views. I prefer you make healthy, smart choices. Have five minutes of free time? Do some jump rope for Me. Turn healthy habits into devotionals.

How do you devote your daily time to Maîtresse?

À bientôt,

Maîtresse Ambre Jade

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Why Send Tributes?

September 9, 2015 by Ambre Jadein Femdom, Findom1 Comment

An important part of the submissive experience is the action of offering tributes. This is very clear to those who enjoy financial Domination. It is not only findom connoisseurs who should tribute and who can enjoy offering tribute. Every submissive should both practice and understand why tributes are such an important part of the experience.

Why Send Tributes?

Because … it is proof that you recognise that time is money. Especially where you Dominant is concerned
Because … it shows your Mistress you care more for Her luxuries than your own
Because … Financial Domination is a thing and you might be into it more than you realise
Because … She deserves that and more
Because … it makes sense, Goddess is providing a service, if you enjoyed that service it makes sense to show Her
Because … everyone likes gifts, receiving and giving
Because … even if it is not someone you serve regularly, chances are offering tribute will mean She will remember your previous encounters
Because … it’s a pleasure you can offer
Because … She is the reason you feel so good. Remind Her that you appreciate Her efforts
Because … it just feels so good to submit every part of your being to Her, especially your wallet

There are more reasons to send tribute, different ways you can sacrifice for your Domme. The important part is to think about why you are doing it. To notice and share changes within yourself as you tribute. your submission is the ultimate gift BUT tributes remind Me how much you appreciate My taking that control.

What is your favourite way to tribute? Are your reasons different than the ones listed here? Let Me know!

À bientôt,

Maîtresse Ambre Jade