Delays As Usual

So I wanted to start my 30 Days of Domme Thoughts on October 1st. But as usual with my slightly unhappy body, I got sick. This time strep. Because I my history with rheumatic fever and heart disease there was no playing around. And because I handle medication so well (she says full of sarcasm and oozing contempt), I was pretty well useless for the ten plus days I have spent in bed.

All this to say that now my fever is gone, my sickness expelled from my physical existence and now I am ready to continue or rather start my Daily Domme Thoughts for the next 30 days. Some of my posts are planned and others, like this one are strung together when I feel the need to release something. Most of my planned posts never work out the way I initially set out to create. I am not sure what that says about my ability to commit… see now this post was about to become something about my commitment issues 馃槈

All this to say that 30 Days of Domme Thoughts has begun with this post being Day One. My planned posts should prove both informative and entertaining, I am looking forward to sharing them. Also be sure that you are following #DommeThoughts as I will be adding in a few random thoughts throughout the month and beyond.

Is there a topic you would like to hear about? A Domme perspective or a truth from me in the coming month? Leave it in the comments or email me AmbientAmbre@gmail.com

脌 bient么t,

Ambre Jade

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Thoughts Manifesting as Physical

The power of thoughts, intentions, affirmations, etc. is not completely understood. What is understood is that by thinking you can manifest a physical response. This is the basis for erotic hypnosis. Words, thoughts, images painted by a strong HypnoDomme manifests a physical response in the subject. The best example, hearing My voice and you start feeling arousal immediately. This power that everyone possesses is often untapped. How can we tap into it? How can you do it when you’re Goddess is not available for a session? Is She necessary to feel Her influence? How can you work on thoughts manifesting as physical response?

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Hypnotic Thoughts Manifesting as Physical

There are a number of examples of hypnotic thoughts manifesting as physical reactions.聽Experience plays on role on how intensely you feel the response.

  • Hands Free Orgasms, you are not touching, there is no physical stimulus and yet there is a physical response.
  • Trigger Words, these words implanted in previous session with your Hypnotist can potentially create a physical response in your body, like arousal, or even flaccidity depending on the response you are looking for
  • Immobilization, certain hypnosis sessions with Me involve immobilization. This is not Me physically tying you but rather your body being unable to move from the picture I painted with My words and influence.

The potential is limitless. With the right erotic hypnotist, anything is possible.

What if your HypnoDomme is not available to create or implant hypnotic thoughts manifesting as physical responses? A little bit of panic, I know but turn that panic into another emotion. Use it to fuel your internal dialogue into positive affirmations directed at your Goddess. There are some options for you, recorded sessions, affirmations and finding a moment to breath in your Goddess. Breath and think of Her. Allow the thoughts of Her manifest responses in your body.

What’s your favourite hypnotic thought manifesting physical reaction experience?

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Goddess Ambre Jade

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Enjoy Your Sexual Experience

This is my new favourite thing on the internet:

So many sexual experiences are clouded by shame. 聽Shame affects us all, even when we least expect it. I have always been lucky in that the majority of my sexual experiences have been empowering. I feel very little shame when it comes to sex, or whom I am attracted to. It always shocks me when people say, “I can talk to you about this but I would never tell anyone else.” When I ask why, it is usually something along the lines of being judged by others.

I understand that not everyone was raised in a sexually empowered environment like I was. That not everyone talks as freely about sex and sexual experiences with those around them as I do. It is unfortunate. Sure, there will always be people who judge. I am judged constantly. I don’t care though. I have always lived counter culture, which means you either constantly fight to justify your choices are you just say, well fuck you. I am happy and don’t need your approval. All that to say the idea of shame is fairly alien to me.

And then, I read (some of) the comments on that fantastic video. In reading them, I started to understand why so many people are hesitant to enjoy the sexual experience. The random correlations that people seem to make with a woman embracing a one night stand is dumbfounding. As a woman, it offends me that the idea of my embracing a one night stand will cause all the children to conceive and hell to reign on earth. I suppose this is where the shame comes from. The ridiculous uneducated trolling of individuals who have nothing better to do than spit random consequences that have little or nothing to do with the sexual experience.

Is this why people feel shame? Because others make snap unfounded correlations between their sexual behaviour and the state of the world? Do people let others’ stupidity affect the enjoyment of their experience? I can’t speak for others or what motivates shame around the sexual experience. All I can do is not feel shame and continue enjoying my sexual self. If people are uncomfortable because of their own hang ups that is their problem and not mine.

This doesn’t mean you have to announce your experiences unless you want to. I just mean, we should not, especially women should not allow people to perpetuate the myths created false correlations between a lack of sexual shame and the downfall of society. Enjoy the sexual experience. Embrace it. If you are feeling shame, make sure that has to do with your own response and not one conditioned by the judgmental people surrounding us.

脌 bient么t,

Ambre Jade


Post Script: My intention in writing this was not the rant that it became. Stupid comments… I allow them to affect me more than I should sometimes.

Daily Worship, add it to your life

Daily worship should be an important part of your existence as a submissive. This does not mean daily sessions, or even daily communication. It means finding some moments within your day devoted entirely to your Mistress. There are many ways to perform your daily worship. The trick is to find the one that works best for you and Mistress.

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Daily worship not only promotes the feelings of weakness you feel when near your Ma卯tresse but it also increases sensations of devotion, need and ache for Her. It makes every session with Her that much deeper as you have been meditating, reflecting, pondering your Mistress. Each moment you spend worshiping, roots your passion for Her deeper into your being.

Ways to Perform Daily Worship

Each Mistress has Their preferred method of daily worship. For some, it is daily sessions or conversations. For others, it could be paying a set tribute on a daily basis. Here are a few that I enjoy:

  • Daily Check Ins, I require many of My slaves to check in with Me daily. The act of writing the email can become a form of meditation. your attention focused completely on Me as you compose your message to Me.
  • Daily Sessions, obviously daily sessions are a great way to connect.
  • Nightly Prayers. While getting ready to fall asleep, open yourself up to the ritual of speaking with your Goddess through your thoughts.
  • Cumming for your Mistress only. Obviously this does not apply to those in chastity. If every time you touch yourself and even orgasm, your Ma卯tresse is on your mind.
  • Meditation. Find some quiet time and meditate on how much you appreciate and love your Mistress.
  • Make Daily Choices that reflect your Mistress’ views. I prefer you make healthy, smart choices. Have five minutes of free time? Do some jump rope for Me. Turn healthy habits into devotionals.

How do you devote your daily time to Ma卯tresse?

脌 bient么t,

Ma卯tresse Ambre Jade

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Hypnotic Trance: The Ultimate Submission

091415In the quest for the act of ultimate submission, hypnosis reigns supreme.聽No other act聽has the potential to touch a submissive on聽so many levels. The three main domains聽of submission are touched in an erotic hypnosis session. While other style sessions can compare, it is up to the Domme to make sure all aspects of your being is touched by Her influence. While worshiping, in a session or on your own, you should always keep the three domains聽in mind and try to touch on each. If a part of you is not satisfied, or a domain聽is lacking, it is your responsibility to voice concerns to your Goddess.

The three domains聽of submission are physical, emotional and spiritual. Erotic hypnosis is the ultimate submission as it touches on each other the domains of submission. There are subdomains and various other aspects that are touched in a Ds or BDSM relationship but for now, we will focus on the three main domains.

  • Physical, this domain is best represented through bondage.
  • Emotional, the clearest representation of the emotional domain is humiliation. While I am not someone to focus on humiliation it is a clear representation of the emotional domain.
  • Spiritual, body worship being the clearest demonstration of this domain.

While each domain has a fetish (if you will) that best represents them, erotic hypnosis touch on each level manifesting the ultimate submission.

The Physical Domain of Ultimate Submission

The physical. Hypnosis works best while you are still. While you can move during a session, hypnosis makes it so that physical movement needs to be commanded by the Domme. It can also make it so that a thought, or image running through your mind has a physical manifestation. Like becoming aroused or orgasming to a trigger or suggestion from the HypnoDomme.

The Emotional Domain of Ultimate Submission

A proper hypnotist can not only play with your emotions but also change your future emotional responses. Be it to Her or the situation, Goddess can create a positive emotional environment with which you can grow and emerge as a submissive. It is also represented in the emotional connection you have with your Domme. Though the earlier example showed a negative emotional response, hypnosis can be either positive or negative.

The Spiritual Domain of Ultimate Submission

The spiritual domain is best represented through erotic hypnosis. The right Hypnotist will touch your soul. Many of you have had this experience, where the connection is so deep and so strong. your entire spirit feels in tune with the words of your Goddess.

If you feel one of these domains are not satisfied, it is crucial that you speak with your Mistress about it. She might not notice the disconnect or not realise to what extent it extends. That is your responsibility. She has some accountability in it as well but you should voice and keep the lines of communications open.

Hypnotic Trance is the Ultimate submission as it touches on every one of the submission domains. While there are other practices that can and do touch on each domain. Hypnosis is the way I enjoy it the most.

脌 bient么t,

Goddess Ambre Jade

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Teaching Consent: Children

Can consent really be taught? As the mother of a newly minted teenage boy, I often think about this. How can we teach our children abut consent when so many adult don’t even truly grasp the importance of it?聽Why is it such a challenge for people to understand consent? Are we so preoccupied with our own emotions, desires, wants, that we neglect the other people around us? In a world where you can get just about anything you want, and usually almost instantaneously, is it any surprise that consent is never really discussed?

Teaching consent to children is a challenge. We are constantly forcing them into situation in which they have little or no control. There are exceptions and I am making a huge generalisation but I stand by my perspective. From an early age when make them feel that their opinions don’t matter. This starts at infancy. Infants are passed around from family member to family member, friend to friend, mother to stranger. Children cry and we laugh about how much of a mama’s child they have already become. A child that age cannot voice consent and not everyone can read their children or give a moment’s thought to whether or noth the child consents to being passed around. It continues throughout children, “give aunty June a kiss” “Don’t touch that” “you HAVE to share your toys” simple run of the mill statements to our children, pave the way to their lack of understanding of consent and what it means. I know these statements are meant to teach children to share or show affection, but we forget to have an informed talk with our kids before barking orders at them. Could these violations of their consent pave the way to not understanding consent and its importance? I think so but that does not mean we should let our children do whatever they want. It is a hard balance between teaching and training, understanding and obedience. I am not going to preach about how to raise children, I am merely using this as an example to demonstrate that from an early age children are in situations where informed consent could聽be present but isn’t.

At a certain maturity niveau, children can understand consent at lot more than we give them credit for. We forget that as parents we can offer them more than direction and orders. We can talk with them about why we do certain things and explain the need for them to do them. Ask them how they feel about situations. Find a compromise. I don’t want to preach about parenting but rather show how parenting is an excellent opportunity to truly change how the future generation understands and implements informed consent.

Something to think about when dealing with children and consent, and the teaching of it. Consent cannot be taught in a do as I say and not as I do model. Look for future posts on understanding consent as an adult and within a sexual context.

脌 bient么t,

Ambre Jade

Why Send Tributes?

An important part of the聽submissive experience is the action of offering tributes. This is very clear to those who enjoy financial Domination. It is not only findom connoisseurs who should tribute and who can enjoy offering tribute. Every submissive should both practice and understand why tributes are such an important part of the experience.

Send Tributes to your GoddessWhy Send Tributes?

  • Because … it is proof that you recognise that time is money. Especially where you Dominant is concerned
  • Because … it shows your Mistress you care more for Her luxuries than your own
  • Because … Financial Domination is a thing and you might be into it more than you realise
  • Because … She deserves that and more
  • Because … it makes sense, Goddess is providing a service, if you enjoyed that service it makes sense to show Her
  • Because … everyone likes gifts, receiving and giving
  • Because … even if it is not someone you serve regularly, chances are offering tribute will mean She will remember your previous encounters
  • Because … it’s a pleasure you can offer
  • Because … She is the reason you feel so good. Remind Her that you appreciate Her efforts
  • Because … it just feels so good to submit every part of your being to Her, especially your wallet

There are more reasons to send tribute, different ways you can sacrifice for your Domme. The important part is to think about why you are doing it. To notice and share changes within yourself as you tribute. your submission is the ultimate gift BUT tributes remind Me how much you appreciate My taking that control.

What is your favourite way to tribute? Are your reasons different than the ones listed here? Let Me know!

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Ma卯tresse Ambre Jade

Establishing a Connection

090615How should you go about establishing a connection with a Domme? I often write about the聽importance of the connection between Goddess and subject. This is an important aspect of your submission that can be overlooked by shiny objects (pictures) and the like. A focus on the physical to create that connection can often lead to a short term submission. Sometimes, that is what you want. A Domme for the moment as opposed to a Domme for your life. I don’t mind the drive by subjects, the ones just looking for a momentary distraction from their vanilla life or a part time replacement for their regular Goddess when She is not available. There is nothing wrong with your erotic self being secondary to other things, so long as you are honest with both yourself and your Goddess.

Say you want to establish a lasting connection. Something worth more than buying time or files. Something that will be lasting and create a bond between you and your desired Goddess. How will you go about it?

It seems obvious to say contact Her, but that contact has a price, one you should be willing to pay. If you are not willing to pay it, or have experienced a history of bad connections and have since become more frivolous with your money, know that paying to contact is not an option. Find ways around it. This does not mean contact Her and say something ridiculous like “just want to know what you would do?” Shit like that makes Us Dommes cringe and block you. We don’t have time to deal with that type of stuff. People contact us on a daily basis with similar requests and it is too complicated to try and weed out those that are actually looking for a connection and those that just want to get off. (There are more rants to this effect but you know what I mean)

So here is a short list of ways to establish an initial connection with your chosen Goddess:

  • Tribute and Buy Time, even with the previous paragraph in mind, paying for time, sending a tribute or gift is still the BEST way to connect. This shows the Domme you are serious about wanting to establish a connection and that you are aware Her time is money. Even if it is just getting to know Her with simple questions. We get asked these questions a lot.
  • READ, most of Us have blogs, read them. Connect with Her words and not Her images. See where She stands on fetishes that are important to you. Find out what is important to Her.
  • Check out Her wishlist. With the right mind, you can look through a wishlist to get to know who She is and what She likes. Buy Her something while you are there. Check out if there are multiple lists, not just the one main one.
  • Follow Her on social media. Some Dommes ask for a tribute for this privilege, it is a privilege not a right. When you follow, We get notifications, every interaction helps boost Us. So follow, share, comment (respectfully). (*** Quick note about Facebook, for Me, I usually ignore friend requests without prior interaction but you can follow Me and/or follow My pages’ feeds.)
  • Sing Her praises when free content is released. Share it on your social media platforms. Comment on posts or videos. Make it so She recognises you, your name, your username, etc.
  • Send an email to say you have been checking Her stuff out. An email. Not an IM. And do so without the promise of a reply. Do it because you are impressed with who She is not because you want Her to reply. If She does, bonus, if She doesn’t who cares, that was never the goal.

Establishing a connection is important. Trust is important. These tips could help you聽establish a deep connection, or at least realise ways to serve Her better.

脌 bient么t,

Goddess Ambre Jade

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Dealing with Misogyny

I spent the day researching this piece. It was actually going to be in my healthy living blog, as just a general, don’t let sexism stop you in your pursuits sort of piece. As I researched, as I typed in a series of key world relating to misogyny, martial arts, gyms, feminism, etc, I was horrified at the results. Forum posts of men complaining that women who complain are “whales or fugly,” women having their queries shot down by men saying they had no place in MMA (MMA was a popular topic in my searches). How should a woman respond?

I will give you some context for why this piece even came about. In my dojo, and in many proper dojos, gender is rarely a factor. It comes into play with certain things but never are a reason to not do something. Anyway, all this to say a dojo, a school, is considered a safe place. Regardless of where you fall in the hierarchy of your studies, someone will always have your back. During a recent class, a rape joke come out of the mouth of a fellow student. Yes, a rape joke. I shut it down immediately, no one laughed with this individual but it still happened. Steps needed to be taken to assure that this individual was not given the opportunity for a repeat performance. I will not go into the details of that since it became the organisation that took further steps, not just me.

I am lucky in that I am a member of an organisation that understands and strives to abolish this type of behaviour. I am lucky that in hearing his “joke” I was not retraumatised from previous experiences. I am lucky that I am no longer in a place where I could have given my power away to this individual and allowed them to hurt me. Not everyone is there, not every woman is at the same place in their healing process. It could have been a very bad experience.

I am in a position now, where I聽can determine his punishment. I know what聽my anger wants his punishment to be, my impulsive need to hurt this individual in a similar fashion to what his potential damage could have been. Long sentence to mean I want to hurt him. But in reality that helps no one. Especially not me. Is punishment really the way to go with this individual? I know his thought process runs along the lines of my being an overly sensitive bitch without a sense of humour. And when it comes to encouraging rape culture, yes I am sensitive, as everyone should be. The fact that people think it is a sensitivity thing, further proves the need to discourage rape culture and demonstrates how deeply rooted the issues are.

This individual is a definite misogynist. The women in the class (there are two of us) are often the focus point of his angry and frustration, not that we cause it but we are who he takes it out on. It has been noticed by other attendees and they have tried to solve this guy’s problems. Unfortunately, this approach has not had any impact on his behaviour.

My goal is not to change his point of view. I have long given up trying to change an individual who is not even able to recognise that they have an issue. That does not mean I will not call people out on their bullshit. Accountability is important. Accountability applies to both those behaving in an inappropriate manner as well as those who let it continue. I am proud of those around me who took steps to rectify the situation and feel good that I was supported.

This should be a lesson to others. That you should support the women around and come to their defense when men are encouraging rape culture and misogyny. Women have a certain impact but men who are proponents of misogyny will not give women a chance to voice their issues. Help women have a voice.

Ambre Jade